Oh heavens yes! As kids we were taught to be ladies and gentlemen although with little boys containing kinetic energy was more difficult. Good posture was paramount and we were told cross your legs at the ankles if at all, keep your knees together when sitting. Of course we were all in dresses then so it was far more important!
I love this SO much! I will definitely be paying more attention to this… question though. How do I balance the natural pre-teen tom boy stage of an 11 yo girl. I fear if I am too overbearing in regards to her behavior/posture she may revolt when she is older. I pray that the desire for feminine behavior comes with age… Do I simply just make sure I am the best example I can be?
I remember my stepmother tolerating a lot of my shenanigans, but every once in a while quietly saying something like "don't sit like that." And it would be very much in the context of my piano lesson with me straddling the piano bench (with my male teacher -- and note she sat in!). She would say it to me in Arabic so he didn't have any idea... and she even told me later, "it's not ladylike to sit like that, and it was fine, you waited a minute and then you changed your position."
I thought in retrospect she handled it just fine. It's more a raising awareness process than anything else, that starts hopefully before adolescence.
And of course, there are so many areas that require self control, so as parents we are always working on all of it, as the situation demands, so that by the time our kids are ready to leave home they have the embedded lessons to take with them.
I have a lot about "self control" (search term) on my blog and in my books!
Thank you so much Auntie Leila! That is the position I have been taking so far (although being able to say it in Arabic would come in much handier) so I shall stay the course! And I will definite search my books and your blog for self control. Thank you!!
Oh heavens yes! As kids we were taught to be ladies and gentlemen although with little boys containing kinetic energy was more difficult. Good posture was paramount and we were told cross your legs at the ankles if at all, keep your knees together when sitting. Of course we were all in dresses then so it was far more important!
I love this SO much! I will definitely be paying more attention to this… question though. How do I balance the natural pre-teen tom boy stage of an 11 yo girl. I fear if I am too overbearing in regards to her behavior/posture she may revolt when she is older. I pray that the desire for feminine behavior comes with age… Do I simply just make sure I am the best example I can be?
Oh, the tomboy stage is so fun!
I remember my stepmother tolerating a lot of my shenanigans, but every once in a while quietly saying something like "don't sit like that." And it would be very much in the context of my piano lesson with me straddling the piano bench (with my male teacher -- and note she sat in!). She would say it to me in Arabic so he didn't have any idea... and she even told me later, "it's not ladylike to sit like that, and it was fine, you waited a minute and then you changed your position."
I thought in retrospect she handled it just fine. It's more a raising awareness process than anything else, that starts hopefully before adolescence.
And of course, there are so many areas that require self control, so as parents we are always working on all of it, as the situation demands, so that by the time our kids are ready to leave home they have the embedded lessons to take with them.
I have a lot about "self control" (search term) on my blog and in my books!
Thank you so much Auntie Leila! That is the position I have been taking so far (although being able to say it in Arabic would come in much handier) so I shall stay the course! And I will definite search my books and your blog for self control. Thank you!!
Every parent should have some random language they can issue orders in LOL
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Loving Candace owens atm as a current role model - great fashion, always upbeat and super sharp..