What are your thoughts about sleeping in separate bedrooms? About 6 months ago I switched to the guest bedroom because I wasn’t getting any sleep. I have been super hot and needing the window open, he’s getting up to go to the bathroom frequently, we were waking each other up all night and then he gets up for work very early and I was awake for the day. We are both sleeping so much better and I’m in a much better mood but part of me still feels like maybe it’s not best to be apart.
Who would have thought that cleaning would be one of my favorite reading topics. I have my technique’s and strategies that I’ve figured out over the years but I have never done directional clean sweeping which I will try today. Thank you for these helpful and motivating publications 🩵
Desperately needing to do this! Even though I’ve read your blog forever, I was stuck in the boom and bust cycle (it works okay when you’re single and live alone). Now with a toddler and a baby on the way, it definitely is not working!
I was telling my husband how little I was able to get done with cleaning and he said, “You probably can’t keep doing things the way you’ve always done them.” Of course! Time to try a new method.
It’s so easy to want to start with the kitchen, but you are so right! I started trying this after reading your books and listening to Jordan Peterson’s “make your bed” admonition, and it makes such a difference to my state of mind (and I think my husband’s too!). ❤️
I will be working on this in little chunks- we have a sweet 6 week old (our fifth! 💙 so whenever I can put him down and I have the energy, I am focusing on reclaiming our bedroom. Loving these very actionable posts, Auntie Leila!
Fun etching that accompanies this post. The artist gave the disheveled bedroom its own etching - the story of Susanna and the Elders (Book of Daniel). A subtle comparison of the two wives (virtuous vs slatternly)? Or bedroom porn?
Okay, I can handle this! For some reason when I think “deep cleaning” I think…organize all closets, vacuum and declutter under beds, wash windows, clean ceiling fan, rotate mattress, and, and, and…! Very overwhelming! But you’ve laid it out very simply and I can do it! 😊
Yes, this isn't the *deepest* cleaning. But it is more than the "sparkle and shine" or "blitz" events I talk about later.
I find it easier to do the things you are mentioning if I've done this "deepish" clean once a week (now that I'm older and there is only the two of us, it's nowhere near that often, I regret to say LOL).
However, vacuuming is a must! After decluttering, dusting, and changing the sheets (a good time to rotate the mattress at some point).
Over the last month or so, I have seen three Youtube influencers who said they "try"to make their bed very day. I found this staggerring, especially coming from women whose videos are all about homekeeping. I can't imagine leaving my bedroom before making the bed. Our children were all taught to do the same.
And for the person who asked about sleeping apart, my husband and I have started to do this after forty years. I found it a difficult decision but in addition to his snoring, I have been kicked a few times due to his dreaming and it reached the point were I felt anxious with him next to me. He used to be a boxer and I was worried that he might have a dream about being in the ring. :). That being said, he keeps his room beautifully, makes his bed like a pro , I sleep better and we are very happy to see each other in the morning.
What are your thoughts about sleeping in separate bedrooms? About 6 months ago I switched to the guest bedroom because I wasn’t getting any sleep. I have been super hot and needing the window open, he’s getting up to go to the bathroom frequently, we were waking each other up all night and then he gets up for work very early and I was awake for the day. We are both sleeping so much better and I’m in a much better mood but part of me still feels like maybe it’s not best to be apart.
This is entirely up to you!
I would just say, make sure both bedrooms are reasonably clean! 🤣
😅haha
I have two friends who sleep apart bc the husband snores. But not all seven nights.
Who would have thought that cleaning would be one of my favorite reading topics. I have my technique’s and strategies that I’ve figured out over the years but I have never done directional clean sweeping which I will try today. Thank you for these helpful and motivating publications 🩵
You're so welcome!
Desperately needing to do this! Even though I’ve read your blog forever, I was stuck in the boom and bust cycle (it works okay when you’re single and live alone). Now with a toddler and a baby on the way, it definitely is not working!
I was telling my husband how little I was able to get done with cleaning and he said, “You probably can’t keep doing things the way you’ve always done them.” Of course! Time to try a new method.
Good luck!
I am going to do this today. I need a system and clear procedures or I’ll get distracted looking at the books on the bedside table 😬
Oh yes! And if you leave the room with an object, thinking to return it to its place, you will then suddenly be cleaning THAT room!
LOL
Hahaha! I cannot even tell how many times I "rabbit trail" clean around here, and how INSANE it makes me!!!!!
It’s so easy to want to start with the kitchen, but you are so right! I started trying this after reading your books and listening to Jordan Peterson’s “make your bed” admonition, and it makes such a difference to my state of mind (and I think my husband’s too!). ❤️
I will be working on this in little chunks- we have a sweet 6 week old (our fifth! 💙 so whenever I can put him down and I have the energy, I am focusing on reclaiming our bedroom. Loving these very actionable posts, Auntie Leila!
Congratulations! On my blog Like Mother, Like Daughter, I have posts about being postpartum 🩷
Focusing on menus and laundry is “doing the minimum” and that’s fine!
Fun etching that accompanies this post. The artist gave the disheveled bedroom its own etching - the story of Susanna and the Elders (Book of Daniel). A subtle comparison of the two wives (virtuous vs slatternly)? Or bedroom porn?
Oh interesting! Also odd bc the deed supposedly occurred under a tree... but of course did not occur.
Okay, I can handle this! For some reason when I think “deep cleaning” I think…organize all closets, vacuum and declutter under beds, wash windows, clean ceiling fan, rotate mattress, and, and, and…! Very overwhelming! But you’ve laid it out very simply and I can do it! 😊
Yes, this isn't the *deepest* cleaning. But it is more than the "sparkle and shine" or "blitz" events I talk about later.
I find it easier to do the things you are mentioning if I've done this "deepish" clean once a week (now that I'm older and there is only the two of us, it's nowhere near that often, I regret to say LOL).
However, vacuuming is a must! After decluttering, dusting, and changing the sheets (a good time to rotate the mattress at some point).
That is s great reminder! The bedroom is usually the last w eclean and therefore usually most messy...😅🙈
It's interesting to think about why that happens, IMO.
"It's not that important of a room... people don't go in there... just my husband... " 🥺
Over the last month or so, I have seen three Youtube influencers who said they "try"to make their bed very day. I found this staggerring, especially coming from women whose videos are all about homekeeping. I can't imagine leaving my bedroom before making the bed. Our children were all taught to do the same.
And for the person who asked about sleeping apart, my husband and I have started to do this after forty years. I found it a difficult decision but in addition to his snoring, I have been kicked a few times due to his dreaming and it reached the point were I felt anxious with him next to me. He used to be a boxer and I was worried that he might have a dream about being in the ring. :). That being said, he keeps his room beautifully, makes his bed like a pro , I sleep better and we are very happy to see each other in the morning.