Question - if one’s husband is genuinely appreciative but just doesn’t say the words often, how does one insist on saying the words without seeming to rebuke the husband? Breakfast and lunch when he’s not there?
I'm not sure I understand your last sentence, but as to the first question:
Don't most parents talk about the kids' behavior... those conversations where father and mother talk about what's going on in the family and how things can improve...
These are the moments to say, "they just don't know how to express appreciation instead of complaints. I've been working on it during the day. I think they don't have the WORDS. What do you think we could do about that?"
ASK HIM. See what he says.
During breakfast and lunch, just say it for them: "Say 'may I have more of this delicious oatmeal, Mama?'" "Honey, we don't say 'hate' we say 'it's not my favorite'" "You may be excused. Say, 'Thanks for the nice breakfast, Mama,' clear your place, and run along!"
Guys who do get it, don't be afraid to tell your guy friends that thanking your wife for the delicious food is a game-changer in so many ways!
Question - if one’s husband is genuinely appreciative but just doesn’t say the words often, how does one insist on saying the words without seeming to rebuke the husband? Breakfast and lunch when he’s not there?
I'm not sure I understand your last sentence, but as to the first question:
Don't most parents talk about the kids' behavior... those conversations where father and mother talk about what's going on in the family and how things can improve...
These are the moments to say, "they just don't know how to express appreciation instead of complaints. I've been working on it during the day. I think they don't have the WORDS. What do you think we could do about that?"
ASK HIM. See what he says.
During breakfast and lunch, just say it for them: "Say 'may I have more of this delicious oatmeal, Mama?'" "Honey, we don't say 'hate' we say 'it's not my favorite'" "You may be excused. Say, 'Thanks for the nice breakfast, Mama,' clear your place, and run along!"
Guys who do get it, don't be afraid to tell your guy friends that thanking your wife for the delicious food is a game-changer in so many ways!
Thank you! Asking him always works - I should remember!
Yesterday I had a migraine and my husband made dinner. My daughter said, "papa, thanks for the hot dogs" and smiled sweetly.
Then she turned to me and said, with all sincerity. "Mama, Thanks for nothing." 😹
hahahaha